~Osho
This has been my mantra for quite some time now. It is a simple yet powerful phrase which reminds me to always go with the flow and never be impatient which leads me to exert unnecessary efforts. I have been floating on a lot of things now, especially those that which I don’t have any control of. If I lost an object, I don’t dwell with it, I just let go. If someone accidentally destroys one of my gadgets, I just have to believe that it was meant to be. If a plan has been changed, I just let go, and allow myself to go with the flow. Yet there is one right now that I am having difficulty floating with, that is living without a partner.
I know that a lot of you would be telling me now not to worry because for sure the right one would come and I just have to wait. But for me, it is easier said than done. I had written a blog, The Art of Floating, which provides a very effective approach on getting what you want. It really works for me, except for one thing, finding the right partner. And why it’s not working for me? It is because I tend to ‘swim’, I actively search for one which should not be the case.
Perhaps this is driven by fear. Fear of being alone? I guess not. I believe that everyone is never alone in this world. We have friends and family. But then I asked myself, why do I need a partner then?
They say we are beings of love and that the need for love lies at the very foundation of our human existence. And I for sure acknowledge that need. We have so much love in us and maybe the reason why I am so impatient in getting a partner is that I am just dying to share that love with someone and feel the love in return. But then again, being impatient will never get me that partner. I have been telling myself several times to stop swimming but I am just too stubborn. but hopefully this time around, I will already learn to float and let go.
If I am going to request again from the Universe, I will no longer ask that I may find him. Instead, let him find me.
Namaste.
Hey there Allan, I'll share something you could really learn from:
ReplyDeletehttp://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/12/02/the-four-force
You know, I could really relate to this post. I'm in a state of peace with my surroundings at the moment, but this prospective 'dilemma' presented itself a few days ago. It hasn't disturbed my peace, though. It's just there. I've decided, like you, to just let things be.
Que sera sera! I think you could use requesting strength from the Universe, though. You could also take a positive take on things: maybe this is the Universe's way of tempering you so that you can become a better partner to whomever comes your way and stays with you because you know the magnitude of the power of solitude and the lonely nights you wish you had someone and that someone had you.
Namaste, you monk, you. :3
Thank you so much Kaloy for your words of comfort and sharing me the link. I really appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteI really do need these things this time around. Sometimes, talking to myself is not good enough and I do need other people's perspective [like yours] to help me regain back my senses.
And I totally agree with you on being optimistic. I just have to view this half full instead of half empty. It is just that I am still trying to search for the reason why this has happened or has been happening. Still trying to know where the Universe is leading me with this. But I know for sure, sooner or later, the answer/s will be handed over to me. I'll just have to be patient in waiting for that time to come.
Again, THANK YOU.
Namaste.
like what I said...before you become happy with others, it is imperative that you learn to be happy with yourself...
ReplyDeletealthough we all are creatures of the universe and may be separated by birth or by any degree, it is important that the love you offer to others, you offer to yourself...
in that manner, the love that you share, in more chances than not, may never be returned to you in the proportions that you gave out or none at all, you will never feel empty...since you are all full, with more love to give than ever...
Thanks Mamu Jeff.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you too. It is said that marriage is never a union of two halves but a union of two COMPLETE souls. Never say, "you complete me" for we are already complete in our own way. I guess, I still have to find that joy and the completeness of being alone. A tough road to take for me but definitely becomes bearable if family and friends like you guys are always there to lend a hand.
Thank you so much Mamu. :)