Reality On A Relationship

Note: A friend gave me this article. He said he has taken this one from a book. This is not my composition but I think it is worth sharing. :)

Too often when love comes to people, they try to group the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and freely moves away. When they fall out of love or the person they love feels the spirit of leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was.

They want answers - there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them or they try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances. They blame each other. They try anything to give meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to treat what love brings you to kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just ddnt choose to rest in other’s person’s heart.

If you find someone in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love deals with you and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

"If you fall in-love with another who falls in love with you, and the love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess the blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself choose the moment."

 Remember this: Keep it in your heart. You dont choose to love, love chooses you. All you can do really, is to accept is for all its mystery when it comes to your life. Feel the way it feels you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it to you. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

Love has its own time, its own season for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it, or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do or anything you can do. Be glad that it came from a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will surely come again.